February 6, 2022 | Reading Time: < 1 minute

In mourning

About this week.


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I’ll cut to the chase. My mother-in-law died Friday, less than four months after my father-in-law.

I have known Theresa for 25 years, more than half my life. She was a second mother. She was a kindred spirit. Like me, her childhood was traumatic. That shaped her life. When we first met, we knew each other. I miss her so.

I’m going to do the best I can to get out each edition of the Editorial Board. But there may be some hiccups here and there. I’m confident you will understand.

To be honest, I’m at that stage of grief in which I’m not sure why any of this matters.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not feeling suicidal.

It’s just that all this work and time and worry and pain and cruelty and love and caring and hope leads to — what?

The same. For everyone, the same.

If you have wisdom to share, I need some. Send it. –JS

John Stoehr is the editor of the Editorial Board. He writes the daily edition. Find him @johnastoehr.


  1. Kathy Routliffe on February 6, 2022 at 5:20 pm

    I’m so sorry for yet another loss for you. I am glad you had so much time with someone you so clearly loved, and with whom you had so much in common. I can only say that losing loved ones sucks, hard. It’s easy for someone like me to say “may memories of her bring you joy and ultimately peace,” but it’s hard to remember that, when there’s such a recent hole in your world. Just keep swimming; cry as much as necessary; accept hugs from those who offer them. If you need to stay up all night, do it; if you need to escape into sleep do that. She loved you; that is good to remember.

  2. Thornton Prayer on February 7, 2022 at 10:14 pm

    I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you and the rest of your family can find some comfort and peace going forward.

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